Friday, May 22, 2009

I'm Fat. Yep. Dr. Confirmed.

We had our RE talk yesterday afternoon. Let's just say that I'm totally unimpressed! I left feeling more frustrated then I did when I stepped foot into the office!!! And no, it's not becuase Baby A decided to pitch a royal fit while there... :-) That was easy to handle Thank-You-Very-Much!

So. We went wanting to see what the Dr. thought about our situation and if any further testing would be suggested. He said that he does not see any point of having a Laparoscopy as he said he does not believe I have Endometriosis. He went on to say that he does not believe any other tests are needed as I respond wonderfully to the medications and all the 'ingredients' are there, it was just 'bad luck' that it has not worked thus far. I'm thinking blood work, Sonohystergram (SHG), SOMETHING! But nope. Nothing.

He said, "If you were to ask me if there was anything you could do to help out, I would say to loose weight. Eggs do not like fat." Yep. He called me fat. Okay. I'm not going to deny that I do need to get healthy and thus the weight will come off, I just do not buy that this is the reason why I'm not getting pregnant. I do not buy it becuase millions of women all over the world who are fat, and some fatter than me, have gotten pregnant with little or no problems at all!

And while I'm on a tangent... I also do not buy that I have "unexplained infertility". I have irregular cycles. I ovulate at wacky times. My ovulation is not always a good one. I am overweight which points to some hormonal problem. I just do not buy "unexplained infertility" and thus the ultra frustration for not getting any answers for further testing!

All I know is that I'm not getting any younger and well, age certainly isn't helping me any here! I mean, come on. My fingers are getting wrinkly!!!!! :-( So not kidding you. I'm just frustrated and annoyed and irritated and upset. That's all. This certainly did not help these emotions of mine...

So. All in all. According to my RE we fall under "Unexplained Infertility" and I'm fat. That's it. Those are the only two things that I've learned from him! And well, he's not really even given credit for that as I don't believe the first and the second, well, it's not a secret.

8 comments:

Michele said...

Has he done any bloodwork to see if you have PCOS? Some of your symptoms fit that bill. I'd find a different RE, perhaps one who specializes in hormonal issues.

Melissa said...

Is finding a new RE an option? I'd be irritated too. He doesn't seem to be very proactive! How Frustrating.

Sassy said...

That sucks. I'm so sorry. It took us 11 appointments at 4 different places to find the doctor who could tell us what was actually going on with us and what we'd need to do. It's horrible enough to deal with infertility, having to fight for decent treatment and recognition of your symptoms makes it ten times worse.

squirrelgirl said...

Ugh. I'm sorry the appt didn't go better. I must disagree with you on one point though - you're NOT old! Not even close...

Becky said...

I'm fat and I had a baby. I had a lot of trouble...until I was diagnosed with PCOS and put on the proper meds. Then it was a piece of cake. after 2 years and 3 miscarriages, it took 3 months to get pregnant once my dr put me on metformin. dumb RE. have you been tested for PCOS?

Cubbie said...

Wow I'm really surprised. I see the same RE and he has tested me for everything under the sun. Not a week has gone by that I haven't had blood drawn. Have you talked to Mickey and told her your concerns? I know another RE in the area that is supposed to be wonderful (and cheaper). I'll get the name for you. Now, I almost fell out of my chair laughing when you said you were old. Oh to be 25 again.

Jen said...

I went to my doctor recently for my yearly woman's exam and was told that I too was too heavy to get pregnant. I think the exact words were, "your body just isn't ready to be pregnant yet." I was heart broken and cried ALL.THE.WAY.HOME! I know I am over weight but to hear it from a doctor is really tough! Sorry to hear you had a rough appointment! Hang in there!!

Anonymous said...

For what it's worth, I had wacky all-over-the-place cycles for two years, with consistantlt late ovulation. My original OB wasn't concerned, but my new RE said that having a BMI that's too low or too high compromises the body's ability to successfully carry a pregnancy. He also said that it can cause late ovulation, which in turn can mean poor egg quality.) (Mine was too low.). After gaining some weight so that my BMI was in the right range, my cycles evened out and I am now pregnant. As much as it sucks to hear that your weight isn't in the right place, some women are just more sensitive to it. It's not like I was anorexic-I ate whatever I wanted, and have a crazy metabolism. But, gaining just 10 percent of my body weight made a huge difference.